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The cause of grief is loss. Once we had something we loved. Then it was taken from us. It’s sad to lose who/what we love. The completion of truly loving relationship is death or grief. Those who advocate divorce as a necessary means to solve problems are people who cannot form bonds to others. They go from marriage to marriage like most people go from old underwear to new.

They aren’t capable of forming bonds of love, which quickly reduces them to thinly veiled sociopaths. There are exceptions: spousal abandonment, a wife who commits adultery, a spouse who is sentenced to a long prison term, a spouse who has a serious health problem but who rejects any attempt to help, spousal battery, and/or a non-Christian spouse who refuses to allow the other spouse to practice Christianity in peace.

In the case of adultery, married males committing adultery with never-been-married females is a Roman Catholic invention of the middle ages. It was completely ignored for centuries, until the puritans adopted it in the American colonies.

We apply adultery to married males with single females because it presents the occasion for lawyers to rake in legal fees off divorces. That’s the only reason! It’s common sense that the male mates more than one female during his life. Human reproduction requires 5-10 minutes for the male and a year for the female.

The natural masculine function is to inseminate the woman’s fertile uterus. The natural feminine function is to conceive, bear and nurse the man’s offspring, preferably manchild. The woman was created to love the man, please the man, serve the man, and to submit to the man’s yoke in cheerful obedience!

The woman cannot become more pregnant once she has become pregnant. So, further intimate relations do not fulfill the natural feminine function. Therefore, this is unnatural. But the male can impregnate a different female every day, each time fulfilling the natural masculine function.

The problem with husbands having mistresses is not the man having relations with another woman. It’s lying. For a woman, love requires trust. The woman claims to fear adultery, but she’s actually afraid of losing her trust in her husband.

WHY? When a wife loses trust, the level of oxytocin in her brain drops. That produces sensations of fear and insecurity. The solution is honesty! Husbands don’t need to lie and sneak around. They need to be considerate.

If a guy’s wife has had all the children she wants, her husband can then mate other women. The purpose of marriage is to establish legal heirs to the man’s estate. It is in no way designed to compel the male into unnatural mating behavior. If the guy finds a virgin he can afford, and he wants to have a baby with her, he should bring the girl home for dinner. Everything is up front.

The guy says, “Honey, I’m home. I’ve brought a guest to meet you.”

The wife says, “How cute! Did you leave a trail of candy leading to your car? And you must be …”

“I’m Amber! I’m a professional bikini-contest contestant! I’m so happy to meet you!”

“Hal, why is she here?”

“OH, yes, well, Amber wants to have my baby. I just wanted to be honest and up front. Lying is so sleazy! It would really make me happy! And you want me to be happy, right?”

“But Hal, she couldn’t be a day over nineteen! What do you have in common?”

“I think the whole point is that we have nothing in common.”

“But what will you talk about?”

“Talk is overrated. I want you and Amber to become acquainted. You two will be like mother and daughter. And you can’t even buy insight like you can get from a girl who knows your husband as a man of flesh and blood!”

The wife said, “If she will make you happy, then have her. But I’m not going to wait on some bimbo hand and foot while she drinks us out of house and home, tanning naked by the pool!”

“She’s not old enough to drink.”

“All I can say is at least you were honest.”

So, the whole thing is different, because the wife can keep her trust, and therefore maintain her peace of mind and security. She wants her husband to be happy. She just has to trust that a nineteen-year-old virgin with long, thick hair draped over her large, firm, well-formed, pointed-up breasts is going to make him happy. But I guess guys are just weird that way.

OK, let’s say you broke up. That’s a real drag. Most women deal with it by facing up to the fact that it’s what’s best for everyone. So, the grief, destruction and chaos cannot be avoided. If it wasn’t for him, we could all be happy.

That view is only possible if the notion of civil divorce is viewed as legitimate. In many cases it is, but in most it’s not. Women file most civil divorce lawsuits, because they are fed a steady diet of implicit lies, by mass-media content providers, doctors, lawyers, and other women.

Love is sacrifice. The measure of love is how much someone is willing to give up for another person.

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